"The dangerous time to run out of determination is just before the habit is formed. For instance she may think, 'Becky has remembered so well up to now that I won't bother to call her back to put away her things this time.' "
"Years ago I made the mistake of allowing my children off from certain good actions on the weekend before certain habits were were solidly formed. My failing became apparent to me when I discovered that--like the month of March--Monday morning came in like a lion! To insure that Monday comes in like a lamb, those weekday actions of neatness, politeness, obedience, must be employed on the weekend too."
I do this all the time. I will get things running smoothly with steadfast routines, then all of a sudden I think, "We have worked so hard and things are going so well I think we all deserve a day off." I always think the kids will love me for giving them the day off. I always think I will get a sudden burst of energy after relaxing all day. WRONG! instead my house gets very messy, very fast, and suddenly my kids are surly, they fight (because they have nothing better to do), I get grumpy because they are fighting and the mess is so big that it makes me tired just looking at it. DSSH comes home to a messy house and no dinner and then I feel ashamed because he didn't get a day off and now he has to suffer the monster I've created. The list goes on and on. Why do I do this to myself? I think, even though I logically know better, that I have bought into the world's view of thinking that the highest goal to have in life is to have nothing to do. Well, I am way to young to retire, I haven't even come close to earning retirement, and it is a known fact that people must have something to do in life or they go crazy (why else do they have basket weaving in nursing homes?).
Therefore, my new SMART Habit this week is going to be keeping the momentum going. To get back on track with my other habits and stop taking "time off for good behavior." Here is my report on the other habits:
1. Jumping out of bed, making bed, shaking my booty till DSSH gets out of shower. I'm happy to say that I did this fully. It felt good to stretch and shake again.
2. Walking with kids to pick up Cookie from school. Eh, I only get a D- for this one. We drove 2 times and one time I actually left the kids at home because Sweet Terror was sleeping. Pablo is very good at watching the kids but I promised that would NOT be an excuse this year.
3. Dinner on the table no later than 10 minutes after DSSH gets home. Not good. I think I only did this twice.
4. Reading with my children. I am happy to say that reading the scripture stories with the boys every night has become a habit. We didn't do it on Halloween night and it just felt wrong. I'm still not getting in the reading with the girls though.
5. Organizing one thing every day and no T.V. until Friday. Totally bombed these. Watched TV 3 days this week and only organized 2 things.
6. No computer until AFTER school work is done. This one I get a big fat F- for. On Monday I stayed off the computer but we didn't get any school work done. Every other day I was on the computer before I'd even had breakfast. Not good, folks, not good.
Here is my game plan (today's to do list) for doing better.
-Make Homeschool Packets. I made a bunch of these and they work great but i ran out and was too lazy to make more. I get all their assignments together for everyday of the week, then all the kids have to do is grab and get to work.
-Get caught up on all chores so that on Monday the chores aren't so hard that the kids can't do them.
-Write two blog posts and answer an advice question today so that I don't have an excuse for getting online.
-Plan next weeks menu
-Get all laundry done so that we have socks and gloves ready for our daily walk.
-Figure out a reading plan for the girls and myself.
As I get these done I will come back here and turn them red. Happy SMART Habits Saturday to you all. For more great habit ideas check out The Lazy Organizer.